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Once you've selected a chat room, you're ready to enter a room. Most sites have a number of different rooms to choose from. Choose one with a title you like and sign in. When you first enter the site, read over the other screen names in the room. See if you find any of them intriguing or appealing. Watch out for ones that seem too perverted. Next, observe the conversation of the chat room. What are people discussing? Is it a conversation you can jump into? Do you like the conversation topic? If not, you can leave the room and enter another one before saying anything. Before becoming part of a conversation in any chat room, introduce yourself to everyone. People will most likely say "Hi," so you should respond back. Then you should start talking and become an active participant in the conversation. Read the chat conversation carefully and see if you like what one user is saying in particular. Or, just get an idea of what you can contribute to the room. For your first time in a chat room, you may want to be a "lurker". Lurkers are users that sign into chat rooms but don't engage in the actual chat. This gives newcomers an idea of how chat rooms work, what their purpose is and how to join into a discussion.

Appropriate Conversation Topics in Chat Rooms
What are appropriate conversations to have in an online chatroom?
When you're online, it's easy to get caught up in the moment because you are communicating closely with people, yet they can't see or hear you. There's a strange sense of privacy and intimacy, even though the Internet is a very public domain. This false sense of privacy can cause people to be too forward or act impolitely. That's why it is important to remember online dating etiquette when you're chatting in singles chat rooms or via email. First, use your personal judgment. If you wouldn't want a stranger asking you your political affiliation or religious views, don't ask others these questions. Of course if you're in a themed chat room, such as Christian singles, it's ok. Ask basic questions: What is your occupation? What are your interests? What types of movies do you like? These are all good conversation starters and aren't too personal. Don't pry. If a person isn't answering a specific question, there's a reason. This may be a warning sign that this person is too secretive, or maybe you should reconsider your question and whether it could be considered highly personal. If someone is asking you too many personal questions, explain this to them. If it was a simple mistake (maybe they are very political and don't find asking political questions invasive), continue chatting as usual. If they don't stop, ignore them.